11 May 2015
May 11, 2015

Wedding Ceremony War Stories

In previous blog posts, we mentioned the need for good communication between the couple and their officiant, independent of whether the officiant is a professional or a friend or family member.  We also mentioned that if your chosen officiant is performing a wedding ceremony for the first or second time, they should seek guidance.   Below are some of the stories we have heard from guests, and wedding professionals, to illustrate why we make those suggestions.

What about the rings – We heard this one from a wedding planner recently.  Seems the family member who was performing the wedding ceremony forgot to do the ring exchange and just as the couple were about to recess out, after the pronouncement and kiss, it was remembered and the exchange was done.   Not sure what happened with this one, but if the officiant was reading through their ceremony, this shouldn’t have happened.

The 5 minute ceremony – We have heard of a quite a few 5 minute wedding ceremonies, and we even attended, as a guest, one that was 4 minutes.   I am guessing that none of these couples were thinking they were going to get a ceremony that was shorter than their procession.  By communicating with your officiant, you can make sure your ceremony is not too short or too long.

The standing ceremony – This is one we hear often, especially from photographers.   The officiant remembers to tell the guests to rise for the bride but forgets to tell them to sit after the couple is standing in front of the Officiant together.  So, they stand until someone finally motions for them to sit down – we’ve even heard it being for half of the ceremony!  This is a simple item that comes from experience and can be easily avoided by writing logistical details into the wedding ceremony script.

Roasting the Bride and/or Groom – This is more applicable to a friend or family member performing the wedding ceremony and we have heard this one a few times.   The officiant shares jokes or what are obviously embarrassing stories about the couple during the ceremony.  Although a wedding is probably not the time to share these stories about either the bride or groom, if they are going to be shared, it should be done as a toast during the reception and not as part of the ceremony.   This is why we recommend that the couple and their chosen officiant talk about the tone of the ceremony, and why we recommend that the couple review the main parts of the ceremony after it is written.

Don’t let your ceremony end up being a war story.  There are plenty of resources available, including Asked to Officiate products, that will help you get a ceremony to remember, in a good way!

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