Having asked a friend or family member to perform a wedding ceremony is only the first step for the couple and their friend or family member. After that moment of agreement, there is the big step of preparing the wedding ceremony…what should be included and in what order. Below is a basic list that is a good starting guide on the sections of a ceremony however, it is just a guide and it is ok to move, include and/or exclude as fits the type of ceremony that is being prepared.
Opening Remarks – Usually a couple paragraphs that welcome the guests, welcome the couple, and set the tone for the ceremony. We always have opening remarks in our wedding ceremonies.
Family and/or Guest Blessings – Options for this can be wording to let the guests know how important they are to the couple followed by a question of support asked to everyone, or, this could be wording to honor the importance of the parents and the couples upbringing. Not required or used in every ceremony but nice touch when couple is very close to their family and friends.
Readings/Religious Words – Options for these can include beautiful readings about love and commitment, poems, song lyrics, religious readings, etc. If you are aiming for a 15-20 minute ceremony, usually going to have a couple readings.
Personal Stories – Use this section as the perfect place to relate a bit of the couples love story to all the guests. Can include how they met, how they got engaged, how they describe each other, etc. Not necessary in the ceremony but really makes it more personal.
Vows – Some form of vows would be done in this section. Most states require vows to make the marriage legal. Read our previous blog posts about vows to get a good idea of options.
Ring Exchange – Can included an intro (short paragraph) on the meaning of the rings and the ring exchange and/or just the ring exchange wording. Usually included in the ceremony.
Reading/Religious Words – Options for this can include beautiful readings about love and commitment, poems, song lyrics, religious readings, etc. If you are aiming for a 15-20 minute ceremony, usually going to have a couple readings.
Additional Component – These can be added to make the ceremony more than just a “speech”. Some people refer to these as rituals. Can be a Sand Ceremony, Unity Candle, Ring Warming, Hand Fasting, etc. Not required but makes the ceremony more interesting and involving.
Closing – Usually a paragraph or two to wrap up the ceremony. Words should match the tone of the opening remarks. We always have closing remarks in our wedding ceremonies.
Pronouncement – Some mix of words pronouncing the couple as married. In most states, this is required to make the ceremony legal.
Kiss Introduction – A sentence introducing the kiss. Not necessary but gives the couple a cue to know when to kiss.
Announcement – A sentence announcing the married couple for the first time. Not necessary but most couples like to have it. Also a good way to start the recession.
Although the wedding ceremony pieces and the order of the pieces are not set in stone, the above should be a great guide to get a one-time officiant started on the process of creating a wedding ceremony. If you would like more details on each ceremony section and wording options to use, I invite you to purchase the Asked to Officiate workbook.
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