03 Nov 2016
November 3, 2016

Wedding Ceremony Flow and Emotion Management

One of the keys to a great wedding ceremony, just like any great presentation, is to make it flow well. And when I say flow, I am referring to both the words and the emotion of the ceremony. When creating a wedding ceremony, take into consideration which pieces that you are thinking of using work best early in the ceremony and which are better later in the ceremony. Also, consider which pieces fit best leading into or following one another. I often write short transitions between pieces and, not only do the transitions help with the flow, they also help to give me an idea of whether one piece works well following another, based on how easy it is to write the transitional wording.

When writing the wedding ceremony, you will also want to use the pieces chosen, and the order they are in, to manage the emotional flow. For example, if you have a more lighthearted piece, maybe you put it very early on in order to get the couple smiling and reduce their natural nervousness. Maybe you then transition into pieces that are heavier/deeper while still early in the ceremony (e.g. the “we take this seriously” type pieces). From there you can go into personal stories, vows, and ring exchange, thus starting to shift the emotion to light-hearted and lovey, which helps to send the guests, and the couple, into the reception with smiles on their faces and love in their hearts.

A quick example is a hands blessing piece that we sometimes use. This piece, which talks about the gift that the other’s hands are to them, fits perfectly after the ring exchange since: the couple are most likely already holding hands; the couple’s hands were just the focus of ring exchange; and the piece fits well emotionally following the promises of the ring exchange.

We know it is not always possible, based on what is in the ceremony, to create the perfect flow, however, taking flow into consideration as you create the ceremony will help go a long way toward making the couple’s day perfect. Check out the Asked to Officiate workbook for many more details on creating a proper ceremony flow.

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