27 Oct 2017
October 27, 2017

Required When Writing a Wedding Ceremony and More

When creating  and writing a wedding ceremony, one of the most often asked questions by the couple and their friend or family member Officiant is, “what pieces or parts are required in a wedding ceremony, and what else can be added to make the wedding ceremony more fun and personal?”  Well, let’s start with the question of what is required in the wedding ceremony.   The very simple answer is that the only thing “required” by most states are a license, some sort of vows, and a pronouncement.  Yes, a marriage license from the county/state, at least one vows question asked of the bride and the groom (or both brides or both grooms) to show intent to be married, and a sentence or two pronouncing the couple as married, and voila, they are married.   Although that is all that is required, doing just those three things would not make for much of a wedding ceremony… even many elopement couples would prefer at least a little more than just the required.   So, what can you add to a ceremony to make it truly personal, meaningful, and beautiful?

Usually we recommend that you start with intro words (welcome the couple and the guests, say some words about marriage and love), add a reading or two within the ceremony (pieces fitting to the couple and representative of their views), and maybe some personal words/stories about the couple (nothing embarrassing, though).  As mentioned in the first paragraph, you will need some sort of vows which can be questions, or repeat after me, or the couple reading vows to each other, or, some combination.  A ring exchange is almost always a given and then it is nice to have closing words that mirror the sentiment of the opening words.   From there, don’t forget the required pronouncement, the kiss (not necessary, but recommended unless the couple is really shy), and finally, the big finish by announcing or presenting the married couple, if they choose.   Do you need to do everything mentioned?  Of course not.  Can you add in other readings or traditional ceremonies (e.g. a sand ceremony)?  Of course you can.  Depending on the length of wedding ceremony you are aiming for (we recommend 15-20 minutes), and the personality of the couple, you can select which pieces fit best as you work through creating the ceremony.  There are really just those few rules and everything else when creating and writing a wedding ceremony is really a blank canvas.

If the couple and the friend or family member Officiant still want or need more help, pick up our Asked to Officiate workbook that is packed full of information on the ceremony pieces and includes pre-written ones that can be cut and pasted to create a beautiful wedding ceremony that will wow both the couple and their guests!

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