23 Mar 2017
March 23, 2017

Radiating Wedding Officiant Energy

This of course isn’t an environmental thing where the wedding Officiant is trying to power the planet, instead it refers to the wedding Officiant powering the ceremony.  The energy given off by the Officiant helps to set and maintain the tone during the wedding ceremony.  This applies independent of whether the bride and groom are super excited, super nervous, or a combination of both.  If you have ever been to a wedding where the couple is super nervous and thus doesn’t show much emotion and then you add in an Officiant who reads in a monotone voice, the ceremony, even if well written and read, just doesn’t generate that much emotion.  Contrast that to the opposite which is a super excited couple (lots of smiling, lots of hand holding, lots of lovey looks) and an Officiant who is smiling and enjoying themselves and even if the ceremony isn’t that great, the wonderful energy is felt.  There is this Maya Angelou quote that I love to mention when I talk about this and it applies to anytime you speak to a group of people –  “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.

Now, I am not saying that you shouldn’t worry about writing a great wedding ceremony, because what you say, especially in a wedding ceremony, is kind of important however, if you combine great words with great energy, the ceremony will knock it out of the park.   I cover this in more depth in the Asked to Officiate ceremony creation workbook but here are some quick tips on how to keep the energy up as a wedding Officiant – 1) Smile.  As they say your smile makes other’s smile.  2) Make eye contact with the couple and the guests transferring the fun you are having to them.  And, 3) Create a ceremony that has a positive tone and flows well which will help keep the good vibes flowing.

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