01 Sep 2017
September 1, 2017

How Much and Who’s Religion in the Wedding Ceremony

The amount, and type of religious content in the wedding ceremony is something that almost every couple should discuss with their officiant but it becomes even more important when asking a friend or family member to perform the ceremony.

To write a wedding ceremony that reflects the couple, the amount and type of religious wording used in the ceremony should reflect the couple.  If the family member or friend performing the ceremony is more religious and creates a ceremony reflecting their level and/or type of religion, it might be beautiful to them but at best it might be awkward for the couple and at worst, offensive.   Similar issues can arise if the couple is much more religious than the friend or family member who is officiating.  In this scenario, the friend or family member officiating the ceremony might not feel comfortable with the amount or type of religion that the couple wants in their ceremony.  This could cause an issue since most officiants are better able to deliver the wedding ceremony when the words coming out of their mouth are “comfortable”.

To attempt to avoid issues, our recommendation is that after the initial asking of, and acceptance by, the friend or family member, the couple and the chosen friend or family member sit down and have a discussion.  This discussion should be focused around how the couple wants their ceremony to feel including the level and type of religion they want in the ceremony.   Some couples might want no religion, or just a little, while other couples may want a religious themed ceremony and while some couples may just want a mention of God, others are going to want all the religious pieces used in the ceremony to be very specific to the faith that they follow.  Just know that no matter what and how much religion, there are plenty of readings and pieces at all levels that can be used in the ceremony, allowing for a ceremony to be written that has the right feel.   To learn more about writing a personalized wedding ceremony and to get some pre-written religious and non-religious pieces that can be used in the ceremony, purchase our Asked to Officiate Workbook, your complete guide to a perfect ceremony.

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