01 Jun 2017
June 1, 2017

5 Tips to Getting a Great Wedding Ceremony

At Asked to Officiate, our motto is “No Bad Wedding Ceremonies” and having done over 850 wedding ceremonies ourselves and heard many stories from other Officiants, we figured we needed to put together a list of what we consider the top 5 tips to getting the best wedding ceremony possible.  So, without further ado, here we go:

  1. If you are going to hire a professional wedding Officiant, have a decent budget for one and don’t base that budget just on what you read in those “what you should pay for your wedding vendors” articles. Beyond the fact that each area of the country has different average rates, the average is a combination of those paying a professional, those using a religious figure at their place of worship, and those asking a friend or family member.  There are also plenty of very low-cost Officiants for brides and grooms that just want someone to say a few words and make it legal.  If the ceremony means something to you, and we believe it should, put between $600 – $900 into your budget for an Officiant and then try to get the best Officiant in your area who fits your style.  You may spend less than that but either way, I guarantee it will be worth the money you spend.
  2. If you are going to ask a friend or family member to perform your wedding ceremony, make sure that person really wants to do it and that they understand the level of importance and the amount of work creating and delivering a wedding ceremony can be. Just because the person you are asking is “funny” or “speaks for a living” doesn’t mean they are going to be a good Officiant.  We had one couple who said they were having a family member perform their ceremony and when we asked if he had done one before, they said no but then pointed out that he is a lawyer who is used to speaking in front of people…ummm…by that logic, I should make a great lawyer seeing how I have performed so many wedding ceremonies 🙂
  3. Independent of whether you hire a professional Officiant or have a friend or family member perform your wedding ceremony, pick someone that fits you as a couple. What I mean by this is your Officiant should be on the same page as you when it comes to amount and type of religion, tone of the ceremony, feelings about marriage, etc.  I recently met with a bride and groom who said that they were originally going to have an uncle perform their wedding ceremony but when they sat down with him to talk through their ideas, they realized he was much more religious than they were and wanted the ceremony to reflect his level of religion.
  4. There must be communication between the couple and their Officiant on an agreed upon basis. We recommend the couple and their chosen Officiant get together early on to discuss the ceremony (feel, length, what to include, etc.) and then meet again at least on one or two more pre-set check-in dates.  These meetings are both ceremony and sanity check points for both the couple and their chosen Officiant.
  5. The ceremony should not be too short or too long. As a guide, we recommend the ceremony itself (not including procession and recession) be between 15 and 30 minutes long.  When working with our couples, we shoot for a ceremony that is about 20 minutes long.  We find around 20 minutes is the perfect amount of time since it allows us to really celebrate the bride and groom and set a nice tone to the day, but not so long that guests, and even the couple, are tuning out.

For more tips, advice, and even instructions on how to get a great wedding ceremony, check out our other blog posts and if you are asking a friend or family member to officiate, pick up our comprehensive, yet easy to use, Asked to Officiate ceremony creation workbook and make sure you get the wedding ceremony you deserve!

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